For some people, it's as simple as I'm hot, your hot, let's f*ck. For others, including some of my friends, sex is a game of conquest and collecting stories of sexual exploits to hold up as trophies, a laundry list of examples used to prove one's sexual prowess. And some view sex as merely a bargaining tool (aka trade/tricking), using what Blanche Devereaux once famously described as "nature's credit card" to get clothes, cars, jewelry or a rich partner.
Now of course, everyone's views of sex, love, and relationships are different. Some people have no problem fooling around on the first night, slabbing everything that moves or getting a midnight package via Adam for Adam or BGC, while others can't even conceive of letting another touch their body until they've heard the L word first. Having dabbled in quickie sex as well as committed relationship sex, I feel qualified enough to compare the two. While doing the do with no strings attached felt exciting and gratifying(obviously so;), the next morning didn't. There was no sense or sharing or feeling like I had truly connected with someone else. It just felt more like I had an itch that need to be scratched and had found the right cat for the moment.
Sex in relationships however, has ultimately been more satisfying and more erotic. The slow, romantic kisses that release that mysterious combination of love, passion, and lust. The touch of your partner's hands as they caress the private spots and crevices of your body that they know drives you into fits of ecstacy.The rhythm that the two of you make as your drift off into your private world, so lost in your hunger for each other that the rest of world fades away.
All other thoughts, sounds, and distractions vanish with each deep moan and blissful sigh, before erupting in a volcano of intense, orgasmic pleasure. Afterwards I felt like I had truly gave something of myself, not just physically, but emotionally, and had received the same from the other person in return.
In the end sex(making love, the monster mash, midnight fun, knocking the boots, playing in the garden, whatever you want to call it) for me is more than just, in the words of Rose Nylund (what is it with me and the Golden Girls today lol:) "two clunky old bodies thrashing up against each other." Good sex is more than just sex. It's love. Yeah yeah, a little sappy I know, but I'm allowed some sappiness once in a while lol.
So what is good sex for you?
P.S. This is my 100th post! I never thought I'd be blogging this long, so I figured the 100th post should start with a bang(pun intended;).